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We have come so far, I have put up with so much, and we have 4 children who would be very adversely affected if we go ahead with separation at this stage.

It is my experience as I began recovery 15 years ago that I truly did discover that I had been living a "false" self.It sounds as if you have been given two different sides of the coin - he loves you, and he doesn't.It is very common for people in the program to be sidetracked by other recovering persons and their hidden agendas.Answer Robin, Thank you for your questions and for the explanation of the issue you face.It is true that there are many divorces shortly before recovery begins (the last straw has usually been broken); and shortly after.I am a recovering alcoholic with 24 years of continuous sobriety.

There's like an unwritten rule about not getting into a relationship for 1 year during AA.

But I was wondering, do they mean no relationships with people who are in your meetings or no relationships period? When I first got sober this recommendation didn't exist.

In fact there is a passage in the big book or one of the stories that contradicts this. In my case I chose to stay away from AA relatonships because I didn't want to mess my membership up and I knew I was an emotional pygmy who wouldn't handle any break-up well and wanted to keep all that morass outside AA.

The drinking had become so ingrained into my behaviors I really lost the real me.

Someone told me early in recovery that "I never had to drink again" and that released me from the bondage of the old alcoholic thinking and gave me the renewed chance to learn who I really was.

Am I right to distrust his thinking at this stage, even with one year of sobriety behind him or is this now the "real" him?